When we are stuck in a place we don't want to be, we often seek the help or guidance of others. Isolation is a choice but it's not highly recommended or productive. However, it's a choice that many people make. Experience has taught me that it deepens our sense of separation, and rather than help us to move out of our state of being "stuck" we become immobilized with depression or despair. Exploring ways to move through a challenging period of our lives provides options that we may not have considered. We can do the research, consult the experts, and seek the advice of those we trust.
We are not separate; no matter how much we believe we are. Meditation and/or pray or just sitting and breathing for a few moments in silence is also a choice that may allow you to make a connection. Outside of our human resources we have our angels, teachers, and guides. They are of and for our highest and greatest good, and have been with us since the beginning and are a wonderful source of inspiration, insight and guidance. There is a great deal of support and many ideas we may not have considered, yet no one, not even our spiritual team can tell us what to do. The decision is ours and ours alone. When it's time to act, the only voice that matters is the voice in your head, the one telling you what you most likely, already knew.
About a year ago I made a choice however, I realized that I was not completely committed to that choice. I identified obstacles real and not. Obstacles are just situations or problems we need to solve, unless of course we decide to use them as excuses. The obstacles weren't the problem, it was fear. Which, of course, is why my last blog was about fear.
It's okay to make a choice. Go for what you want or walk away from what you don't want. It is not right. It is not wrong. It is a choice. Once you make a choice, "...all the universe conspires in helping you achieve it." (The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho). Remember that you are human and as such you have free will. If the choice you make is not right for you, you are always free to make another choice.
Most of us know the beginning of the famous quote by FDR, "We have nothing to fear but fear itself." Few are familiar with these words that follow: "nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance." Efforts and energy that could be used to advance our dreams, inspire our imaginations and drive us towards the goals we established to propel us towards our higher selves.
Fear steals precious time and energy from our journeys through this human experience. We often remain in painful, stagnant and even abusive situations because we are afraid to make a change. We create a list of "what ifs" and every one is more dire than the one before. Before we know it we create a horror film worse than the one we currently see and we retreat. Acknowledge the fear. What is the source of this fear? If you allow the answers to unfold, you will discover that they are illusions based on presumptions.
What if we created a list of truly exceptional, joyful and prosperous possibilities? Can we change our mindset enough to imagine the things we do want and then begin to create them? A simple edit to our screenplay can turn the stages of our lives into fantastic adventures. We are not alone in our efforts to achieve our best life. "And, when you want something, all the universe conspires to help you achieve it." Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
The Universe will help, but we have to do our part. Let go of the fear. Choose to edit the script and create a new 'what if' list. For best results, consult your higher self!
Are you always nice? Is it always the right choice? One of the many definitions is
Nice: Pleasant, agreeable.
During the past few months I've heard people say that they were just trying to be nice. They say this as they recount the perceived injustices of others and the sadness and anger they feel. They were being agreeable even though they did not agree.
Being nice is not always being kind; at least to yourself. People too often choose to be nice in order to avoid conflict or confrontation. In many cases, this comes at a high cost. When being nice means forfeiting your right to be heard, you are giving others permission to treat you without respect. If being nice is in alignment with what you honestly want, then be nice. If not, ask yourself if you are allowing others to treat you in the way you want to be treated. If you are feeling angry and sad afterward, did you truly avoid confrontation or are you merely internalizing it at the expense of your own well-being?
You are an expression of the Divine, beautiful, loved and perfect. You have the right to joy and happiness, to be respected. No one may agree with your ideas or opinions and that's okay. You have the right to your own expression of the Divine.